BDSM in the Relationship

Especially couples who try to live their tendency 24/7 quickly reach their limits in their love relationship. What Sub does in the so-called session context may all too quickly be lifted to an everyday level by her cathedral – and vice versa. This either leads to frustration in everyday life, or sexuality is only lived cautiously – until sexual frustration returns.

Psychological counselling for couples with a BDSM relationship background

Through numerous interviews with couples, whose play relationship has ultimately become a couple relationship, I have been able to discover that apart from trust issues, excessive demands and different desires, one problem issue dominates: caution. Working with these couples, I found that those who love begin to question what they have passionately lived before. Some people learn to grow through this psychic blockade, others despair of the resulting vicious circle.

Since BDSM is a sexual variation that is consciously integrated into everyday life in some couple relationships, the boundaries soon blur. One argument follows the next – and in the end the discussion ends again with the sexuality lived by the couple. The resulting frustration can not only be gruelling from a sexual point of view, but can also push many a couple to the brink of despair: Both want the same thing – or only almost?

Frustration instead of pleasure

Hardly any other sexual game turns deep lust into deadlocked frustration as quickly as BDSM. If the relationship begins to suffer as a result, it would be destructive to make lazy compromises. Psychological counselling for couples can also help you to recognize exactly where the problems in the partnership and sexuality actually lie – and what possible solutions could look like.

Find your way back to a lustful, liberated sexuality in which you as a couple can enjoy your inclination together.
Psychological sexual counselling for individuals in the field of BDSM

My offer is not exclusively aimed at couples. Of course, you can also make an appointment for a psychological single-sex consultation. This can be helpful for the following topics, for example.

  • If you feel that you cannot share your inclination with your partner.
  • If you are not clear whether and how you want to put your fantasies into practice.
  • If you have no real experience with the topic BDSM and the many offers and advices, which are to be found in the Internet, confuse you.
  • If you cannot cope alone with a stressful experience in the area of BDSM – the so-called “crash”.
  • If your inclination grows beyond your head and you are worried that you will no longer be able to control it.
  • If the desire to fulfill your fantasies repeatedly tempts you to side-jump and you then struggle with inner reproaches.